- Be a Good Listener. If a controversial subject comes up, listen and TRY NOT TO BE JUDGMENTAL. Offer your own opinions, not advice.
- Be Trustworthy and remember that confidential information about the child will NOT be discussed with anyone except the mentor’s Area Supervisor.
If there is a threat of physical harm to the child or others, the mentor must cross the lines of confidentiality to seek protection for the endangered person. The mentor must inform the mentee that he/she may need to break confidentiality.
- Be respectful of the members of the child’s family and their different roles. Do not talk negatively to the child about the parent. Share your concerns with the Area Supervisor instead.
- Never loan money.
- Don’t make promises you can’t keep. Be aware that the word “maybe” might be seen as a “yes” to the child.
- Do not break appointments unless it is absolutely necessary.
- Set guidelines between you and the child, regarding such things as appropriate/inappropriate times to call, the importance of keeping appointments and being on time, how to handle schedule changes, etc.
- Share your world, i.e., background and life experiences.
- Be patient and be prepared for setbacks and disappointments.
- Be flexible. Don’t tell your mentee how to live his/her life.
- Don’t criticize or discourage differences.
- Give encouragement.
- Don’t pry. Wait for the right opportunity to ask personal questions.
- Give attention and affection without expecting outward “thanks”.
- BE YOURSELF.
- Don’t set unrealistic expectations.
- Discover your mentee’s strengths and build on them.
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